A white teenager with short hair and a rainbow hat stands in the doorway of a glass door. Their reflection is in the glass.

By AmparoGV at Envato Elements.

This section is…underwhelming. I could't find much for aunts, uncles, and cousins of queer and trans young people. You can probably refer to the section for parents and the one for siblings to get some ideas, in addition to the little that's below. If you know of other relevant resources that i've missed, please let me know.

That being said, give yourself time to adjust. But, at the same time, learn more about what this means, both in general and for your nibling/cousin.

If you don't accept them, it can cause so much pain:

At the very least, you probably want to maintain your connection to your nibling/cousin. If you want to deepen that connection, open your mind and heart to learning more about their life.

"My cousin is also autistic but she is extremely homophobic and transphobic so we can't really connect as well as I would love to, as she is the only other person with autism I know in real life (not online)."
A parent (a mom, based on gender expression) and tween hold up signs. The tween's sign reads, "TRANSGENDER PROUD BRAVE WONDERFUL ME." The mom's sign says, "TRANSGENDER CHILDREN ARE NOT POLITICAL PAWNS." Both individuals are wearing face masks.

Photo by Nikolas Gannon on Unsplash.

"My parents say things like they are proud of me, or asks me how my relationship life is going. I feel like some of my other family members have this weird fear of asking me about my dating life, even though they ask all my straight cousins."

"Being both queer and Asian, I feel a lot of pressure to hide my identity, both within and outside of my community. I'm fortunate to have relatively accepting parents, but my other relatives (aunts, uncles, grandparents) hold much more 'traditional' values and could very likely disown us if they found out. But even within the queer community, my race has often led to unwelcome experiences--especially having my relationships labeled as 'yuri', back when I still identified as female, or being otherwise fetishized."

(For the definition of "yuri," see this webpage.)