If you need some extra help, find an LGBTQA+/SGL-affirming therapist for yourself. Remember: there is no shame in needing the support of a trained mental health professional. This goes for parents, other relatives, educators, or anyone else.
Recognizing that you need help from a professional is a huge step and speaks volumes about how hard you're working to accept this young person for exactly who they are.
One of my website reviewers (a fabulous parent of a fabulous queer younger adult) commented that it's important to "put on your own oxygen mask" first so you can help your tween or teen and perhaps others.
If there are no appropriate therapists in your area, wider availability of therapy-via-video is one of the few positives things to come out of the covid-19 pandemic.
Learning to support this young person is the only acceptable outcome of your journey. But how you get there and how long it takes is up to you and the support network you build for yourself.
This support includes parents helping TGNC children and youth in socially and/or physically transitioning if that's what they want or need.
Remember that it's better to have a young person who's out and proud — or, at the very least, is fully supported by their community — than a young person who is dead by their own hands.
