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(For how i crafted these quotes, see What i changed in survey-takers' responses and What i didn't change.)
Adults overall
It's okay if you make mistakes as long as you're trying to change, be kind, and support us.
What you say to us will stay with us. You can choose to hurt us or empower us.
If you can't accept us, at least don't make rude comments about us.
We need you to be able to change, listen, and learn
If you really love me, show that you love the "TRUE me." Treat me like all the other guys out there. Or did you really only love the girl who was hiding the true me?
Don't crow about what a great ally you are; listen to me, hear me, take an interest in me.
Some of the adults in my life "still don't want to talk about WHY I am presenting myself differently. They don't want to acknowledge that I'm nonbinary or pansexual."
Thoughts on passing
Adults don't really try very hard to support me. But maybe that's because I often get read as straight.
When I started passing as the straight person I am, the adults in my life acted really surprised. "It was hurtful, because they made it seem like it was unfathomable that others could see me as the person I am."
Don't tell me that "I should hide being trans or pretend to be cis."
Don't tell me not to be affectionate with my girlfriend in public.
Parents
My father doesn't treat me the same as my cis sister. Like, he shows her physical affection and won't with me.
Healthcare providers
I had a nurse who has a trans son. She was very excited to be meeting with me and wanted to know how being on T has impacted my menstrual cycle. Super inappropriate! It's not my job to educate you. I was there because I was having "an autistic meltdown," not for anything related to my gender.
