(For how i crafted these quotes, see What i changed in survey-takers' responses and What i didn't change.)
Adults overall
If you use my deadname, it makes me immediately sad, no matter how happy I had been. It makes me want to cry.
I'm glad you use my preferred name. But that doesn't give you a pass on misgendering me.
I know you need to get used to my name and pronouns. But everyone else can make the change. Why can't you?
I get hurt when you don't follow my lead with my name and pronouns.
My name gives me joy. I'm not going to change it to make you more comfortable.
Don't ever ask me about my "real name"/deadname. You don't have a right to that information.
Parents
We need you to use our names and pronouns, even if it hurts you.
"My parents are lacking quite a bit in the affirmation department; I really wish they would actually use my pronouns and that it didn't take them an entire year to even start using my preferred name."
"They try to gender me correctly and buy me pride merch to show how supportive they are. However that correct gendering and support feels completely gone once I leave the room as I over hear them constantly misgender and deadname me. Support should be consistent and constant even when the person is not in the room."
Use the right pronouns and name. It's hugely affirming when you do and very disheartening when you don't. If you need to, practice them when I'm not there. I go to school in another state; if you wait for me to correct you when we're together, you'll never make the change.
My teachers use the right pronouns and name for me. You can, too.
